Dear Indy,
My boyfriend is coming to visit and is going to meet my friends. I really want them to like him…what do I do?
–Awkward!
Hey Awk,
Don’t worry about a thing. Your boyfriend is coming to visit YOU, not your friends. If you have a good time with him and if you show him how fun your friends are to hang out with, there’s not going to be an issue at all! I understand wanting your friends to like your boyfriend–they’re the most important people in your life! But, if you really want your friends to like him, just tell him to be himself. Clearly you like who he is, and your friends like you. Thus, hopefully they’ll like him too! But most importantly, just relax and have a good time! Good luck…have a fun time!
Dear Indy,
My boyfriend’s ex hates me but the’re still friends. I really want to get to know her because she seems sweet.
–Help!
Hey Help,
First, assess your motives. Do you really want to be friends with her? Or do you just want to get to know her because her ex is now your boyfriend? Keep in mind that though he may still be friends with her, he’s DATING you. Don’t stress out about it too much. If you really do want to be friends with her, though, it may not be as easy as you think. The ex probably doesn’t like you, on the surface at least, because you’re dating the person that she’d been dating–but consider how long they were dating. If they were dating for a while, it’s clear that she’s still hanging on to this relationship or might not want to think about it-thus, she might not want to be friends with you (yet). Play it cool, at least for a little while, and see what comes of this. For now, just hang out with your boyfriend and don’t worry about any crazy exes.
Dear Indy,
My boyfriend has facial hair. I hate it. How do I get him to shave?
–Ew
Hey Ew,
I’m not really a big fan of facial hair either. I have two suggestions. First, ask him straight up to SHAVE! If he’s too attached to his stache/beard, though, there’s always option number two. If/after he refuses, you can cultivate an equally annoying habit/facet. For example, does he hate it when you whistle? Then whistle away! Does your puppy hate him? Bring your puppy with you whenever the two of you hang out! If he brings it up, tell him “If you didn’t want to shave for me, why should I do this for you?” Depending on the level of annoying activity, this should do the trick. Good luck!